James*, 50 -

engineer from USA (college graduate, divorced with no kids): why I seek a Russian bride

The answer to why I seek a foreign/Russian bride is quite simple. I am a man of 50 years of age and remember in my childhood how important the family unit was. I am sad to say, that the traditional family in the USA is fragmented. I do not mean by traditional that the woman is lesser partner, but that each of the spouses have different talents and the two combine as compliments to the other. My weakness is her strength and vice versa.

I find that all the Russian women, regardless of any other individual differences, all value the family unit. It is a time proven model of success for the husband and wife, and the childern prosper in such a "cozy" home as well.

John*, 39 -

medical nurse from U.S.A. (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I am looking for a Russian woman

For me it isn't that she is from Russia or some other European country. It has to do with what I want out of a life partner and where I can find her. I value an educated woman who places the family above her career. It is becoming increasing more difficult to find an American woman in my age group that values family. I feel Russian and European women have been spending much of their lives preparing themselves to be a life partner for a good man. But due to demographics and cultural habits there are very few worthy men for them to choose from. I also enjoy the diversity that she will bring to the family. I am looking for a woman to love and who wants to be the center of my attention. A woman is the key stone of the family. I want the very best for me and our family. What better place to find a wife then in a country that women have spent a life time preparing themselves physically, emotionally and educationally to be wives and mothers!

Ingo, 49 -

Psychologist from Germany (university graduate, never married, no kids): Why I am looking for a Russian woman

I should mention that I am not from the United States, but from Germany. I live in the Capital Berlin. So my answer is a little bit realted to the difference between German women and women from Eastern Europe. I am not looking especially for a Russian women, it can be a woman from Russia, Ukraine, Belorussia or Germany.

In my opinion, women in Germany have the term "equal rights for men and women in all parts of social life" completely misunderstood and changed into "There should be no difference between men's and women's behaviour" But this leads to a lack of attraction to the opposite gender. For example, women of my age (49) tend to dress like workers, especially as soon as they have children, not very feminine. Russian woman of any age dresses like a real woman. You can see this even by looking at photos on German and Russian dating websites. Russian women put their best photos on a dating website, German women use photos made by their cell phone.

German women expect from their men to care for the children 50% (I am willing to do this), but they don't value if the man pays for them in a restaurant to show that he appreciates the woman (not because she cannot afford it).

I know some Russian women who are living here in Berlin (unfortunately they are happily married) and I was in an email correspondece with some Ukrainian women and in my opinion all of them are very well educated, have good manners and high family values.

More than German women, Russian women try to make daily life more convenient with nice small surprises (a tasty dinner, a little change in the apartment (I should emphasize "little", I don't like "big" changes in the apartment, lol J)

As a last point I want to mention that I am not looking espcially for a Russian or Ukrainian woman, but for a woman for marriage. If I can find her in my neighbourhood, it will be ok and I will delete my profile. I entered Elenas Models because there are too many unserious dating sites in Germany. People in Germany use dating sites to make fun and unserious jokes. There are also a lot of international dating websites with lots of scammers, so I think Elenas Models is one of the most serious dating web-sites. Thank you.

Peter*, 46 -

business owner from USA (university graduate, divorced with 2 children): Why I am looking for a Russian woman

Here's the thing…in America, the idea of a wife who takes care of the home, children, cooks and may choose to work is considered an insult to feminine equality. The Russian ladies may not believe it, but most American men are convinced they are lucky to have a wife or girlfriend, and to do anything to keep her - even if she isn't attractive, loyal or devoted. In fact, for all the reasons East European women describe in looking elsewhere for a man, it is the complete opposite in the United States. Here the men outnumber the women, and the women are spoiled as a result.

I can't say all the women are this way, but the ones that are as attractive as the average Russian speaking girl - certainly are. It's common when meeting a woman in the US to quickly explain what you do for a living, and how much you make. As if this decides suitability before any other virtue is examined.

So, the idea of finding a well-educated woman, who is tender, affectionate and family oriented sounds like a dream come true. Then when I see how beautiful East European women are - there is no way you can ever think of anything less for a wonderful mate. Not only because of their attractive looks, but knowing that a real woman is inside.

Jeremy*, 67 -

retiree from USA (university graduate, widowed with grown up kids): Why Russian women

Being a widowed male and after a year since my wife died, I began to look at online dating services and accidentally stumbled upon Elena's Models. After I began reading some reviews, I decided to give your agency a try.

I had no particular interest when I first started looking, but the more I read about Russian women, their interests and education and employment, I became quite fascinated by what I was seeing.

I have met several women online through Elena's and many did not work out which is to be expected. However, I have found some new friends that I talk to either through continued emails or on Skype.

I have no idea what will happen with these budding friendships, but I can say that the few women I talk to in my age group are interesting, smart and attractive. I am actually hoping that something will materialize with one of your "models".

As a group the Russian women seem to have a great sense of responsibility, honesty, care for family and above all, seem to have a sense of humor. Most of the women I have corresponded with work or retired from professional level jobs.

As I write I learn more about them and hope that something will materialize in the future. I know most of these contacts work hard and do not earn much money. I am not a rich man myself, but maybe something will come of it.

I find the possibility of meeting someone from a different country and a different culture exciting. In my correspondence I have not only learned more about Russia and the Ukraine, but find the possibility of someday meeting that one person who would be my wife.

Even with the cultural differences, I find that Russian women in many ways are not that much different, all of us basically looking for a permanent relationship. I also find that meeting someone with a somewhat different background opens my mind to new ideas and possibilities making me feel younger than I really am.

I'm not sure what else to say except "thank you" to Elena's Models internet site for the chance to meet some of these lovely women.

Brad*, 25 -

fitness professional from Europe (collge graduate, never married, no kids): why western men like Russian women?

It's not for so obvious reasons like because they are some of the most beautifull women in the world. For me it's more because in my country most of women don't know anymore what the word "family" means. For most of the people love dosn' t exist anymore. Women are looking for the richest guy and don't care about happyness. So here we learn to know the person first and if you are not interesting, you have almost no chance.

It is that way it should be:
1 - know the mind and thought
2 - meet the girl and seduce her
3 - getting happy ;)

So it's a way to find love much older than what we could think. And it worked before so why not now?

I maybe have found the one. Meeting during August.
Thanks to Elenas Models!

Nick*, 52 -

social worker from USA (university graduate, separated with 1 child): Why I am looking for a Russian (Ukrainian) woman

When I got married 27 years ago for me it was forever. Then about 10 years ago I began to develop a problem related to my balance which I found out later was related to a job that I had as a young man. My wife simply couldn't deal with the fact that I was not physically the same as when we were married. I found out September 2010 that my wife was "trading me in" (getting a divorce) and I was devastasted. For me love and marriage is a committment that cannot be broken. I am convinced that I am "wired differently" than most American men. I have a deep need to love and be loved. Romance is so important to me. I had to find someone that I could cherish and adore. I could not face the rest of my life alone. Then a friend of mine said to me "Sounds to me like you need a Eastern European Woman." I began to read everything I could find about Ukraine and Ukrainian women. I found I was in love with the values and beliefs that many Ukrainian women have. Love and family are the most important aspects of life. There is a beloved out there for me (I will find you my love). I know I have a soulmate waiting for me. I now have a sense of destiny. Sometimes I browse thru the profiles of women on ElenasModels with no other purpose in mind other than to soak up their beauty and to read the profiles of hope and of love. It inspires me to move on towards finding "the one" my beloved. In America many people think I am crazy to think the way I do about love. Materialism and wealth seems to be the most important things in life to many Americans. I, on the other hand, want to find a woman whose eyes I can look into and touch her very soul. I am convinced I will find this wonderful woman in Ukraine somewhere. I will not stop until I find my love. That is why I'm seeking a Ukrainian woman.

Mark*, 47 -

consultant from U.S. (college graduate, divorced with 1 child): what I like about Russian women

Here is my short story of what I like about a Russian woman. Perhaps you hear this often but I repeat my version here:

"If you have never traveled with a Russian woman, you would be amazed at how they are able to manage their wardrobe. While some women travel with trunks that will break your back, she brings the smallest and lightest travel bag that you could imagine. Not even a suitcase, and somehow she manages to pull out a different outfit each day - and looks stunning every time! Evening wear, casual, jeans, bathing suits, shoes, jewelry, cosmetics, I mean really how does she do it? It's like a magician pulling tricks out of a hat! It is very pleasant."

John*, 51 -

sales professional from US (university graduate, signle with no kids): Why I am looking for a Russian Bride

I have dated several very nice ladies in the US, so I don't want to say that all of them are all spoiled, selfish and hard to please. That would not be fair or truthful. But what I have found lacking is a sense of loyalty. I think two people have to be unconditionally loyal and devoted to each other in a relationship. I think that women have a more sensitive and delicate nature and it is the man's responsibility to guard and protect that beautiful nature. I am looking for a Russian bride in hopes of finding those qualities, of loyalty and devotion that I have not yet found in a woman in the US and to provide a greater security that she may not have.

Martin*, 33 -

transportation employee from UK (divorced with no kids): why western men seek Russian women

Thanks for this web site where we can find the most beautiful girls I ever seen. I'm here because it had always been my dream to find a girl from a different country, but I never expected to find her on the internet. Here I feel comfortable, helped and not REJECTED, thanks girls!

Martin*, 33 -

transportation employee from UK (divorced with no kids): why western men seek Russian women

Thanks for this web site where we can find the most beautiful girls I ever seen. I'm here because it had always been my dream to find a girl from a different country, but I never expected to find her on the internet. Here I feel comfortable, helped and not REJECTED, thanks girls!

I wish to live an adventurous and romantic life with a lively relationship.

Although my first experience was with several scammers, I then found Elena's Models and I think the women here ARE serious, although unfortunately a dishonest woman used this site to use me for money. Although she "scammed" me, I realize my responsibility in all my actions as well as how I ignored all the clues of her dishonesty. I did not hold this site at fault and soon after I found out about my untruthful fiancee, I resumed my commitment and intention to find a GREAT, BEAUTIFUL, GOOD and KIND Russian Bride.

Part of my interest is also because I am very romantic, but a bigger part is because I want to become the best man I can become and I feel it is possible with a right woman who is stong and feminine, qualities which seem very rare in American and similarly influenced Western women.

I find Russian and Ukrainian women to be very noble, stunningly beautiful, domestic, respectable and respectful.

It is my biggest dream and highest priority in my life right now to find a great bride and now I only want one who is Russian (or Ukrainian).

There are deeper, more philosophical, even perhaps metaphysical reasons why I feel drawn to Russia and a Russian Bride, but I hope what I wrote is helpful and that everyone who seeks love through Elena's Models finds it richly beyond their hopes and quickly. All the best!

A significant number of Russian women indeed are beautiful and give more value to marriage. I believe most of them want to get and stay married.

I like the Russian women for two things: Their beauty and their smarts. I know they are highly intimate in every way. They can also be more appreicated when they find Mr. Right! They must find a gentleman and not a slob! That way, a great commitment is made. Like you said, Love knows no boundries! So far, a bunch of these fine ladies have found high interest in me. However, I might have trouble choosing the right one for me. But such as life, I'm enjoying this site, I will make the right chocie and don't cause any jealousy. Commitment is what I'm here for!

Russian women are feminine and often very, very beautiful. They also seem to be faithful to their husbands, and family meens a lot to them.

After all these years with women's lib western women has won the fight - to their own disadvantage: because we - the western men - have become less men than they really want. So they go to Egypt and other places on love holidays for passionate sex, because men at home do not dare to dominate in bed, i.e. they tend to ask in stead of crave, and that is NOT fuelling passion.

Personally I long for the traditional values and balance between the sexes that was before the cultural revolution in the sixties. I am fully aware that we cannot turn the clock back. Still we could save the best from earlier days for a better future.

I think that Russian women can help us do that. That is why I want to marry a Russian woman.

Thank you for helping not only with this excellent website but also with useful articles.

I have always felt deeply fascinated about Russians. On one side their contribution to world's culture is incredible, and reading a novel from Tolstoy or listening at their songs in the film "Alexander Nevsky" it is impossible not to feel touched by their deep humanity. On the other hand during the Cold War we kept reading a lot about them without ever being able to see a single one, and curiosity was great. Most Europeans felt like me when at last the gates got open, it was like being able to hug again brothers kept away for a very long time. And it soon became clear, from the first ones arriving here, that their cultural level was far superior to the average one here. Something of great importance to me. Furthermore, Russian women (I include in such a word also Ukrainian, etc.) were well known for being the true backbone of their country, due to their qualities. And I realized after a while that also their values were still the solid values unfortunately disappeared here, allowing men to rely upon them. As you can see, there was more than enough to make me feel that it was most likely for me to have as future life companion a girl from the ex USSR!! Can you be surprised?

Tony*, 55 -

journalist from South Africa (widower with a grown up son): why I am looking for a Russian woman

Many years ago, just after the Berlin Wall came down and relations between South Africa and Russia were restored, I was invited for tea by the wife of a senior Russian diplomat in Johannesburg. At the time I worked in television, and she wanted to propose story ideas for the show to improve South Africans' negative perceptions about Russia. We became friends and she soon talked freely about her thoughts about life, politics, and South Africans. She also told me about the plight of young Russian women who desperately wanted to get out of their country because of the prevailing conditions at the time. Her story about one particular woman was quite shocking. This young woman accepted a marriage proposal from a man in Kenya. But when she arrived there, she found out that she was to be the man's fourth wife, and that she would be not much more than a slave to him and his other three wives!

So yes, internet dating is fraught with danger. For both parties. Have you perhaps seen the movies "Birthday Girl" with Nicole Kidman, Ben Chapman and Vincent Cassel , or "A Foreign Affair" with Tim Blake Nelson and David Arquette?

I certainly do not want to "rescue" a Russian woman who'll then be "forever grateful to me and treat me like a king, even though I was too fat, ugly and poor to find a decent woman in my own country," as one of the lines in "Birthday Girl" goes.

I am considering Russian women because I admire them for their brains, beauty and ability to overcome hardships. Young Inna from Moscow pointed out to me that the playing field has changed. She loves her life, career and friends in Moscow and there's no reason for her to give any of it up and move abroad. Moscow and St Petersburg have become affluent and almost European in character.

There has been a proliferation of internet dating sites, or "Russian brides" agencies. I'm convinced that many of these women are wonderful persons and would make ideal life-partners.

Unfortunately, this phenomenon has also led to unscrupulous operators and women who, for reasons of their own, are exploiting their would-be suitors. In a way I can understand that. I suppose in some areas of Russia times are still hard and there could possibly also be much resentment towards men in faraway countries who are seen to be "poaching" Russian and Ukrainian women. Hence I've run into a few scammers, but luckily they're usually quite easily spotted and avoided.

But I have also met a few very special women, although - so far - not in person. Among them were the beautiful and enigmatic Natalia in Odessa; Tatiana, a medical doctor from Novokuibyshevsk; Dariya from Sevastopol; and Inna, the delightful and super intelligent Muscovite mentioned earlier.

They have all moved on now, and I am still looking on the other side of the world for Ms Right.

Who knows What Dreams May Come?

Len, 34 -

business owner from USA (college graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek Russian women

The first experience I had with a Russian woman was a scam. A letter and picture of this supposedly Russian girl in trouble showed up in my inbox one day. I wondered why anyone would fall for this? What's so special about Russian women?

I decided to learn more about Russian women. I looked online and discovered many dating sites proclaiming Russian women to be attractive, well educated, family oriented and hard working. I do not know as I believed this but I was interested enough to join and find out. So far I have not been disappointed. I know there is no ideal. I do not expect ideal as I am not ideal myself.

The internet has made worldwide communication easy. So why not search abroad in addition to locally for love?

Jimmy, 41

- self employed from Australia (college graduate, widowed without kids): why I am looking for a woman abroad

Not too many reasons but they are important ones I think.

1) I think a FSU lady is much more apriciative of a man who treats her with respect and dignity. She is likely to return your appriciation and respect in kind, DOUBLE!
2) I think they are simply more feminine. Not just in looks but definitly in behaviour.
3) I think they are less manipulative. They will speak their mind with respect and openly. They can agree to disagree :)

Just my 2 cents.

Richard*, 50 -

security officer from Australia (divorced with 2 kids): why I am looking for a Russian woman

One of the reasons I am looking for a Russian lady, is simply put their morals and values are much higher then some western ladies. They look after themselves a great deal better then some western ladies. And they appreciate family life more then some western ladies do, they seem to work at a problem or issue, rather then to say "to difficult, don't want to talk about it", or if it is in relation to a marriage they try to work on the problem, rather then just walk out and destroy a family unit. Not saying that sometimes they don't walk out, but it appears only after they try to work at it.

Peter*, 49 -

programmer from United States (university graduate, divorced with kids): why I seek a Russian woman

I'm on this site mostly because I feel more appreciated by Russian women than by American women. I have sufficient dating opportunities locally, but given what I've seen, I'm thinking that we have a better chance of happily enjoying life together. What Russian women want seems more realistic and in-line with what I'm interested in. I doesn't hurt that many ladies on the site are quite beautiful and seem well educated with a broad range of interests.

Dale*, 43 -

engineer from USA (university graduate, divorced with 2 children): why Americans seek Russian women

I am an American and I am looking for a Russian/Ukrainian woman because they have very similar morals and they put family first. I believe family is important, the most important aspect of life. American women are too busy with their careers and are not interested in family. If you marry, they are more dedicated to their work than their family. I also see American women as spoiled and marry with the thoughts of "well if it doesn't work, then I can divorce." I have Russian male friends and they told me how special Russian/Ukrainian women are (I understand they are the exception to the general rule) so I decided to try it. I can say that I have met one lady in person and planning to meet the second very soon.

I am looking for a Russian woman because American women have developed a "fair weather friend" attitude towards relationships and marriage. They are content when all goes well, but at the first sign of difficulty they leave.

Also, Russian women appear to look beyond the physical appearance of a man and respect solid work ethics and strong family values.

Gary*, 48 -

self employed from USA (collge graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a Russian wife

Russian women have not been "liberated" as American women have. Russian women truly know how to treat a man and make him feel like the king of his castle. They are delicate, feminine, real women, who love to wear the panties in the family and have no desire of wearing the pants. It makes a man want to give them their hearts desire.

Well, I have tried looking in my country and I have been through some hard relationships, so I decided to try looking abroad. As I looked I decided that I try Russian women. Keep in mind I am not just looking because they are so beuatiful, but because I really love the culture, traditions, and the food. Also, I know of friends who have married Russian women and they are so happy together. Now I want to find that happiness and start my family, so that is why I am here and I hope to find that lovely woman who is not only beautiful but that has a beautiful heart too.

Dan*, 51 -

business owner from UK (divorced with grown up kids): Why I am looking for a Russian Woman!

I believe with all the digression away from tradition and manners in most of the western world, it is a breath of fresh air to speak with a considerate, respectful, loving, kind and gentle woman, who's need for a loving and harmonious relationship is genuine. It is common knowledge that you will get all of these very special attributes, and a lot more from a Russian lady! The latter is indeed a rare and precious quality in todays "modern society" and I believe that a large proportion of the male species seek out women of such favourable qualities because "they are real" and not the generally trashy, foul mouthed group of women that one meets on average. Let's be fair and understand that my thoughts are a generalisation of the majority, and you will get good and bad in every walk of life, both male and female. Based on this way of fair thinking and the ratio's of other women to what I view as being the majority, and there for the more dangerous to persue when one is looking for genuine love, the Russian ladies stand head and shoulders above the rest!

Certainly, you get the odd scammers here and there, which I hold in high disdain. I wonder how this shocking and cruel practice can be embarked upon. Indeed, how any human being can get rich out of taking advantage of someone else's sadness and loneliness for their pathetic financial gain, is beyond my human understanding and compassion! These people are the absolute scum of the earth, and if they perhaps viewed their own predicament, if in reverse, how would they feel, having their selfish hearts torn in two, and their emotions scattered to the winds!? I don't know how they can sleep at night!

Anyway, sorry, I digress. Another salient fact of life is, right or wrong, men will always be attracted to the prettiest ladys coupled with a strong instinct for peace, love, harmony and high family values. It is my understanding that this is precisley what the average Russian woman strives to achieve. They keep themselves well groomed and presentable in comparison to many other modern woman that have more tattoo's than skin, and enough scrap metal poking out of their bodies than one would require to build a battle ship often resulting in the impression, that they are more battle worn than an old retired saggy, wrinkled sailor who has spent the best part of his life at sea!!

In short, Russian woman are the best, if one is lucky enough to have a choice.

My personal feeling is that if I were honored enough to make the aquaintance of said Russian lady, I would fully expect to be partnered with a beautiful angel from heaven, that has come down to love me, pamper me, and look after me for the rest of our lives together, which, in turn, would make it a pleasure for me to do the same, and treat her as the true lady that she is!! This concept is based on the very real fact that if you are fortunate enough to have everything that you ever dreamed of in a woman, you will take extra special care, for fear of losing the most precious, loved and respected person that you will ever hope to meet!

Viva Russia!

You posed a question to guys on the site about why we seek a "Russian Bride", in other words a woman from Eastern Europe.

To me, the advantages of dating/marrying an Eastern European woman are many: more girls with both beauty and brains, more girls who enjoy the arts, etc.

I discovered another advantage through trial and error, however, and it is even more important to me. Eastern Europe girls are less afraid to communicate. If they are interested, they will tell you. If they are not, they will tell you. If they have a worry, a problem, or a complaint, they will tell you. Their social openess and courage prevents a great many misunderstandings that men have all the time with Americanski girls.

A man cannot read a woman's mind and should not be expected to; yet, American girls often become agitated when a guy is not magically able to do so.

I gave up on American gals 10 years ago for this very reason, and, ever since, I have been so much happier dating girls from Eastern Europe.

Still looking for the right Eastern European gal and have experienced a bit of disappointment with girls in desperate financial straights whose primary focus is money and things. (In the end, I may marry a Ukrainian girl who I dated 5 years ago and have never forgotten.) I still must say that 9 of the top 10 gals I have ever met were from Russia or the Ukraine.

Michael*, 41 -

employee from Australia (college graduate, single): why I like Russian women

Just read your message about guys abroad wanting Russian women. Well this Aussie guy is very happy with Russian women because they are beautiful and take care of them selves,workout at the gym, swimming or some activity to stay in shape. They always try to present them self with nice clothes hair and makeup good shoes, they have pride in them self. The girls study and have careers not just jobs. The women profess to want love not hinting of a meal ticket or suggestion of citizenship. If this is their motive they disguise it well. I am single and have been for many many years I have not had any luck to find a woman. I am on a lot of sites talking with women all over the world and find the Russian women the most friendly and promising for me to find someone. I dont know why I have not found anyone even to share a meal with perhaps too sceptical or cautious. I like the Russian women and will continue my quest for a loving partner there.

I was given to understand that Russian women held family values higher. I was lead to believe Russian women are more concerned about a mans personality, values and not so much on his looks or appearance. Western women tend to value looks the most and age second.

I know I prefer a Russain woman / bride because American woman are materialistic, selfish, and have no moral standards like Russain Women do, Russsian women seem more humble and value the man's needs, and most of all are faithfull and know how to please their man. Although I have not been married yet I will pursue from Elenas Models the woman of my dreams!

Michael*, 36 -

consultant from United States (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I am looking for a Russian woman

From what I read in the responses of Russian women looking for husbands in foreign countries, and looking at the reasons why I started to look abroad for a partner, one could say there is a role reversal.

In Russia, the men seem to be arrogant, here it's the women.

I live part of the year in Europe, part in the USA.

The girls are different in these two cultures, but the ones I met are on average equally unsuitable.

In Europe many girls have a decent education, but they think they are too good for work. They want to make a career, mostly in management where they hand out orders and then talk a lot about what they "did do today". They largely want to find a guy who's higher up on the career ladder, drives a big car, and brings home a big salary, such that they won't have to work: they want a cleaning lady, a nanny for the baby, and then complain if the husband is at work too much trying to earn enough to satisfy all these material desires, and with some "luck" they'll have a lover on the side, making up for "the lack of attention" from their husband.

In the US, the emancipation of women led to them not learning the traditional women skills, while at the same time not learning any or many of the traditional men's skills. Conversely, most men still know and learn their traditional skills, but most men know now how to cook, clean, etc. better than most women. So emancipation lead to growth for men, and regression for women. A large group have a pretty bad education, but they can tell you the price of just about any handbag another girl carries. They may have a college degree despite all the drinking and partying they did during school, and they got that not because they were interested in what they studied, but because they figure they get a better paying job. They think all they need to know to succeed in life is to know how to look pretty.

Neither of these types of women are attractive to me, and although there are certainly exceptional women in any country, they are pretty hard to find in the US and EU.

Then there's another aspect: age, and how a particular culture deals with it. In the US and EU people look half with envy half with disgust at an age difference of more than 10 years. I had a girlfriend who was 16 years younger than me, and I kept hearing the same stupid comment from others about how I was "robbing the cradle". My grandparents had more than 20 years age difference, and they were happily married. I actually think a bigger age difference is part of a successful marriage, and here's why: men remain on average sexually active into quite high an age. Many women lose a lot of sexual desire once they hit menopause. Further, men are sexually attracted by looks. Now, who's more likely to cheat: a sixty year old man with a forty year old wife, who is still sexually active and looks young and attractive, or a sixty year old man with a fifty-five year old woman who may be a wonderful friend, but who doesn't have much interest in sex and doesn't look that sexually attractive anymore? If you believe in one marriage for life, then a decent age difference may make the difference between a few nice years followed by a big disappointment, and a life-long marriage.

Now aside from the fact that most people still think that I'm a student because they think I'm at least 10 years younger than I am, there's also simple math: I'm financially stable, but not yet in a position where I feel comfortable having children, because I want to be able to afford a good education for them. I also don't think it's good to meet someone, get married and then to have children right away, because I believe it's better to first grow as a couple, and enjoy that phase of our lives. Having children for a woman over 35 is much harder on them, and much past that age, there are also significantly increased risks for a variety of birth defects. Allowing for some time to enjoy as a couple and to create a more stable financial future, the ideal age for a girl for me would be somewhere between 22-27, not that I wouldn't consider a few years up or down as well. But around here, I might date a girl that age, and when she gets to know my real age she runs, even though she didn't think I was too old while she just guessed my age by looking at me. Such are the cultural prejudices towards a somewhat bigger age difference! I find these much less prevalent in other countries, which is another motivation to expand my search.

So, the reason why I'm expanding my search to include Russian and other "foreign" women is this:

I want a woman who's still comfortable being a woman, who is educated, pretty, wants to work with me as a team, and doesn't mind being 10-20 years younger than me. I'm not looking for a maid or a boss, but for a partner; and since I'm reasonably well educated and culturally interested, I want a woman who can keep up with me, and with whom I get along.
That doesn't sound like an outrageous thing to look for, but as I described above, with the way most women are in the US and the parts of Europe where I spend my time, it's a difficult combination to find.

This brings me to the experiences I've made with EM and a couple of other sites like it:

There are several types of men on a site like this:
a) the ones just entertaining a fantasy, who want to talk and pretend, and never act;
b) the ones who think that under the pretense of false promises they can have a travel adventure involving one or more women;
c) the ones who date a girl to ensnare her in some sort of sex business (get them to work as strippers, etc.);
d) the ones who looking for some sort of girl, either as a young trophy wife, or because they think they get an obedient housewife;
e) the ones who are looking for a real partnership with a woman and are simply open to women from other countries because they have a hard time finding someone where they live.

Similarly there are several types of women on such sites:
1) the ones who are not even women, but scam artists of either gender, who try to solicit money and gifts from men, or collect e-mail addresses for spam;
2) the ones who are real, but have some sort of arrangement with drivers, hotels, apartments, etc. and who get rewarded for getting men to visit them and using various services while doing so, and who while the men visit them try to get them to spend as much money on them as possible;
3) the ones who try to use meetings with men to let them pay for an exotic vacation;
4) the ones who have some sort of hardship and falsely believe that throwing themselves at some man, the problems magically go away, or who think other countries are infinitely wealthy, and money will never be an object.;
5) the ones who want a real, loving relationship and partnership with a man, and simply are open to men from other locations because they have trouble finding the right man where they are.

Why do I write this? Because in my search I've personally experienced the girls of type 1-4, so I try to avoid them, and because it's clear that any decent woman will fear that the man she is communicating with is of type 1-5.

Still, even of the type-5 girls many have unrealistic expectations, and I wish they would be enlightened a bit to change their attitudes.

1) Many don't want to talk, they want a man to come and visit them right away. No decent man will do this, unless he's very rich and very bored. Here's why: it's easy to meet someone just for a cup of coffee the next town over. It's a five minute drive, and at most one wastes half an hour talking to someone one doesn't like. But here on a web site, one sees only a picture, which might even be heavily processed with Photoshop. So based on a picture who would take a week of the few precious vacation days, spent money on an expensive plane ticket, hotels, etc. just to meet a girl in a café and then maybe realize after 15 minutes, that this is not the one? There are only three types of guys who will do that: very desperate ones (do you really want one like that?), the ones who go on an adventure trip to meet a dozen of girls, likely just trying to have sex with them, and then move on to the next (do you really want one like that?), or the ones who try to lure a girl to their home country under false pretense to get them to work for them in all sorts of things from strip clubs to brothels (you certainly don't one of these!). Girls have to learn to invest time into a relationship, get to know each other best possible, and then when both are comfortable, then is the time to visit.

2) Men are not life-savers. It doesn't matter what hardship you're in, throwing yourself at some man is not going to solve the problems. In a good relationship we take the good with the bad, and we try to help each other best we can. But first comes the healthy relationship and then the mutual support. Needing support is not the foundation on which to build a relationship. You should be looking for a mate because you're ready and capable of a healthy relationship, not because you need help.

3) Things in western countries may be better in some respects, but unless you are willing to be bought by some rich divorced guy as a young trophy wife to be disposed of when he's tired of you, money doesn't just flow. People need to be careful how they spend their money, and they work hard to earn it in the west, too. This has nothing to do with being greedy or cheap, but if you want stability in a relationship, you will not find it with some guy who spends money with both fists. Many times when I talked to a girl about money, e.g. in the context of air fares, etc. I noticed a complete disregard for costs and the financial reality. (e.g. "Why don't you come a week earlier?" - "Because the plane ticket costs $3500 instead of $900 if I fly a week earlier." - "What, I'm not worth it to you?")

4) Pretending to be someone you're not, is not going to be a good starting point. Be who you are, say what you really want. There's no point in saying how much you like house work, and then scoff at cleaning and cooking. Don't say you like to travel, when you rather just be at home, etc. etc. Saying and writing what you think a man wants to hear may give a little bit of initial success, but a much bigger disappointment later. A successful relationship can only be the one that's based on reality and honesty and a common understanding.

So to sum it up: trying to find a good partner isn't easy, anywhere, expanding one's horizons however will increase the chances. I've met a few girls here that were quite a disappointment (Type 1-4), and some whom I'm still friends with even though one or both decided that we're not ideal mates. Some promising one I talk to I have yet to meet, where it goes, the future will tell...

I think Russian women are very beautiful.I come from a country that is supposed to have very beautiful women,but as the years go by I see that they are all very lazy and fat. I am told that I should look beyond the beauty and see what is inside, that is total bs.I am fit and want my partner to not be disgusted when she looks at me. I expect the same from my partner. Healthy bodies make healthy love. That is the fact. I also want to change a girls life for the better. If she is lonely or feels threatened by her life there, I want her to come here and be safe.

Why I am looking for a Russian woman ..... A very good question.

Some time ago, a friend of mine contacted a woman from St. Petersburg. At the time I just laughed at him, calling him a fool, there were enough women for us locally...

Until the day his lady came to visit him. I invited my friend and his Russian girlfriend to my home for dinner and met the lady. Hook, line and sinker, I fell in love with the Slavic women! It was like a big clap of thunder...

Eventually I started doing research on the Internet and check various newspapers. The more I learned about women from this region of the planet, the more I wanted to find the right person from there.

Obviously I have dealt with unscrupulous women ... .. ((Not much surprise here))) and I had to learn a thing or two. I went to meet a lady in Kiev, it did not work out but allowed me to meet other women while over there to talk with them and learn much more than for all these years on the Internet.

From that moment on, I knew that it was not a just a dream; I knew that my happiness was somewhere out there ... We just had to find each other.

I have now finally met a woman who comes from Ukraine, we spent some time together and got to know each other better ... and I hope that this wonderful connection we have will result in something very special and long lasting.

Of course I'll keep you informed of the result. Have a good day and thank you!

First off all, they are very beautiful and still look great after 30 years because they take care off themselves ... and I like Russian girls because they are family oriented, they love their childrens and relations and take care off them. In our country is no more culture about that, and I miss it. And our country girls don't respect their men, I think Russian girls are different in those issues. I hope I find my own princess from Russia.

I am looking for a Russian / Ukraine woman because I heared that they are:

1. very beautiful
2. responsible
3. honest
4. family oriented
5. trustful
6. tender

Hope I found my Princess soon too ;-

They are very beautiful and sound much more mature than women in my country.

Will*, 54 -

manager from USA (college graduate, divorced with 2 kids): Why Amercian men seek Russian women

It is difficult to generalize, as nothing is ever TOTALLY one way or another, but (in general) American women have lost their sense of self-worth. The obesity epidemic has created a situation where severely overweight women see themselves as having normal body types. Maybe they are right; this is now "normal" in America!! Honestly; go to any website with profiles of predominantly American women and not only are practically all of them fat, these overweight women list in their profile that they are "normal" or "about average". The morbidly obese list their body type as "a few extra pounds". Russian women care about how they look. All you have to do is view profiles in Elena's Models website, there are page after page of beautiful women. Is this beauty due to "race" or other special ethnic issue? I don't think so. If ANY of the beautiful Russian women let themselves go and ate uncontrollably, they would be just as unappealing as the American ones. To me, the choice as a single American male is simple: I will find my woman among those that still value how they look as something important. I refuse to accept overweight as "normal" and don't care if I have to jump on a plane and find my princess in Russia.

I am an Australian man who does not fit with many of the women that are here in my country. Russian women seem to take pride in themselves and respect their life partner. They like living a full life and love to share their experiences and just being together with their man is so important and precious to them. They like the simple things in life and like to know that their partner in life loves them - and only them - and will be there for her as well as she for him. It seems to me that a Russian woman wants to be loved, cared for and know that her man will treat her right and will repay him with the same love and understanding. That is why I am after a Russian woman! A woman that would come to Australia to be with me would get all the best I could offer her and I know that it would be a door that would swing both ways!

First lets begin by saying Eastern European or Slavic women because it's not only Russian in todays spousal searches?

Now to answer the question... For some it's initially their beauty and sex appeal. They are very brave and wise. I believe they are more devoted to marriage by their culture. They have a deeper faithful tradition to family. I've lost faith in western single women. Too many live for sexual fantasy with multiple partners. Back stabbers! ,)))

I've been to Russia, Belarus, Ukraine and all over America. Some of my close friends prefer Latin and Asian women. I prefer women from Ukraine because it is more comfortable for a western man to travel. No visa, can rent cars easily. I feel welcome to travel there. It's my dream to marry a Ukraine lady and create a happy family. :) Thanks!

I was browsing the internet the other day and found a site talking about differences between women of different backgrounds. I was intrigued when I read an article written by a Russian woman regarding the value Russian women place on family, themselves and others. I have seen far to many American women focus on being independent and placing far too little value on their relationships with their family or their relationships with their significant others. This is not to say every American woman is like that but after being involved with a few failed relationships, I wanted to explore other possibilities and when I came across a website discussing Russian and Ukrainian women I was interested in learning more.

1- Russian women have many family values that not found in US.
2- Russian women take care of themselves (body&mind)
3- US has alot of fat women & if they are not fat, they have a drug problem.
4- US women are very materalistic to be happy.
5- US women have very low morals, if any.
6- US women have trouble being faithful or truthful.

I looked at several sites and yours seems the best with advice and tools to be successful. The reason I'm looking for a Russian woman is I have mainly concentrated on career and was married 12 years and it did not end well after putting her daughters through college. I am now a little older (51) and American women of a baby bearing age are not interested in someone like me. Whereas it seems a more stable, mature partner is acceptable for a younger woman in Russia and is respected. I want to have my own "blood" family and welcome a child or two from a Russian lady as well. I like the traditional values that seem to be endemic in the culture and also appreciate the way Russian women take care of themselves physically and with an eye towards self respect and image. Otherwise, all the intangibles come into play - chemistry, intelligence, humor...I'm very hopeful!